The importance of leaning on your tribe

The importance of leaning on your tribe

Adult friendships are hard. Yet in this time of the pandemic, they are more important than ever. Everyone I know is experiencing some form of loneliness, anxiety, unease.

You’d have to be living in a cave not to feel the uncertainty and sadness accompanying this period when there are more than 160,000 dead from the disease. We are in and out of quarantine, our daily routines are upended, there is economic hardship all around and we’re watching our children suffer from disturbed schooling and socialization. Even Michelle Obama, who I admire greatly for her humor, strength and determination, admitted this week that she’s suffering from low-level depression.

Words can and do hurt

Words can and do hurt

Last week I took a class (on Zoom, of course) offered by my book’s publisher on "Sensitivity in Fiction." We are living in an amazing time, a time like no other — and not only because of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Because of the Black Lives Matter movement, we can no longer shrug our shoulders and ignore various facts of racism.

Hamilton asked, 'Who will tell your story?’

Hamilton asked, 'Who will tell your story?’

My husband doesn’t always remember the Hallmark holidays (Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, etc.). Often he gets a card — usually a terrific one. But once in a while there is a gift — and it is sometimes spectacular.

In May of 2016, on Mother’s Day, he outdid himself. He knows I am a musical theater nut. Few activities make me happier than live plays and I’ve been lucky enough to see quite a few on Broadway. He knew that I was dreaming of seeing the show "Hamilton"— and being the aspirational person that I am — the dream included seeing it on Broadway starring the writer and director of the show, Lin-Manuel Miranda. Lin-Manuel was leaving the show in June of 2016, so I thought the likelihood of that happening before he left was small.

Assessing 'White Fragility'

Assessing 'White Fragility'

The book, White Fragility, appears to have been written for me: a well-meaning progressive. The subtitle of the book is, “Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism”. The author, Robin Diangelo, is an expert in anti-racism. She writes to us well-meaning White folk, those who would never refer to ourselves as racist.